ORDER OF CEREMONY
The steps involved in the ceremony.
Below is the order of steps which take place in the wedding ceremony. You can access our ceremony choices document (866 KB) for printing or you can select any of the steps below for further information:
You can choose to enter together or separately, and if you have chosen your own music, this is where your entrance track is played.
The registrar/celebrant will welcome the couple and their guests with a short introduction.
If you have chosen to be given away, the registrar will ask “Who gives this person's hand in marriage?” here.
There are two parts of the ceremony that require specific words to be said in a prescribed way, the Declaratory Words (These are the words that state you are free lawfully to marry one another) and the Contracting Vows (These words form the legal contract of marriage).
The Declaratory Words can be said in one of three ways:
- “I do solemnly declare that I know not of any lawful impediment why I, ____ may not be joined in matrimony to ______”
- “I declare that I know of no legal reason why I, _______ may not be joined in marriage to ________”
- By replying “I am” to the question, “Are you _____ free lawfully to marry _______?”
You may wish to include readings in your ceremony. A reading can be done by a guest or family member, or the celebrant would be more than happy to read it for you if you wish.
We have the following suggestions for readings, but you can also provide your own if you wish:
- Love is the most incredible of all the experiences that touch our lives
- What is love
- From a Native American ceremony
- Marriage joins two people in the circle of its love
- Always love each other
- Wedding day (Rowena Edlin-White)
- Captain Corelli's mandolin
- Wedding day (Robert Palmer)
- Marriage
- Your wedding day
- The art of marriage
- This day
There are two parts of the ceremony that require specific words to be said in a prescribed way, the Declaratory Words (These are the words that state you are free lawfully to marry one another) and the Contracting Vows (These words form the legal contract of marriage).
The Contracting Vows can be said in one of three ways:
- “I call upon these persons here present to witness that I, ______ take thee _______ to be my lawful wedded husband.”
- “I _______ do take thee _______ to be my wedded husband”.
- “I _______ take you _______ to be my wedded husband”.
As part of your Contacting Vows to each other, you can also choose to make extra promises to each other. We have a number of promises you may wish to choose from, but you can provide your own if you wish.
You may wish to include readings in your ceremony. A reading can be done by a guest or family member, or the celebrant would be more than happy to read it for you if you wish.
We have the following suggestions for readings, but you can also provide your own if you wish:
- Love is the most incredible of all the experiences that touch our lives
- What is love
- From a Native American ceremony
- Marriage joins two people in the circle of its love
- Always love each other
- Wedding day (Rowena Edlin-White)
- Captain Corelli's mandolin
- Wedding day (Robert Palmer)
- Marriage
- Your wedding day
- The art of marriage
- This day
You may wish to exchange rings as part of the ceremony. You can choose to include someone as ring bearer if you would like.
After all of the formalities and any chosen additions of the service have finished, the registrar/celebrant will pronounce the couple legally married.
You will now sign the Marriage Register along with your chosen witnesses.
Please note
Only a civil non-religious ceremony can be conducted by a celebrant.
All music, readings and words which form part of the ceremony must be approved prior to the ceremony.
* These are options that you may wish to include in your ceremony.